Before you press play, a word about how to get the most out of this.

What you're about to watch has moved educators to tears, shifted entire teams, and changed the way thousands of practitioners across Australia and beyond understand children's behaviour. It is, indeed, a powerful professional development video. 

This video is 45 minutes long, and it asks something of you that your average professional development does not, which is your full, undivided attention. Not the kind of attention you give something while also signing permission forms, planning tomorrow's programme, packing lunch boxes, and stirring something on the stove. We know you can multitask like a boss, we've seen you. 

But with this video, the real work here happens in the watching, in the feeling, and in the reflective thinking that educators like you do so well. So set the time aside, find your space, make yourself a cuppa, and sit with it. All of it.

You'll be glad you did.

The Jayden and Sally story was first delivered by Sandi Phoenix as a keynote presentation at conferences across Australia from 2014 to 2019, under the title Behaviour Management: Is Children's Behaviour Ours to Manage? It has also been a central feature of the Educator Toolkit for Behaviour online course and in-service workshop since 2012, and continues to be delivered in that context today.

The presentation reached educators so far and wide, across Australia, NZ, the UK, the US, and internationally, that in 2017, PSFE decided to capture it on video so educators all over the world could access it. If you've seen an earlier version, this is a revised recording made in 2025, reflecting the evolution of Sandi's thinking and the framework over that time.